My husband went home with another woman on our wedding night, he didn’t cheat but I’m not sure I can ever forgive him
A NEWLYWED woman has admitted that she’s struggling to forgive her husband for rushing out of their wedding to see someone else.
She revealed that they spent over $1,200 on decorations for their intimate wedding in which only family was invited.
She took to Reddit nearly three months after they tied the knot expressing how the trauma of their marriage had routinely brought her to tears.
She and her husband, who are both from a South Asian background, spent two years trying to get his family to accept her before they went ahead with their union.
She explained that her mother-in-law thought that she was too old and her own family was wary of her marrying a family that disapproved of her.
The wife said she had repeated chats with her husband about him being a “mommy’s boy” and needing to confront his mother.
Prior to their nuptials, she warned him that she would not be willing to leave their own house to move in with his parents.
“Back to the wedding day, we had a small ceremony in a hall which made us husband and wife, and then my husband’s family came back to my house to complete the rest of the ceremonies,” the newlywed wrote.
“His mom said we will not be able to stay more than an hour as we are visiting some friends today so we need to go.
“I called my husband outside and I told him I had spent at least over £1,000 [$1,200] on decorations.
“And that it’s our wedding day you can’t just leave like that you’re meant to be here till late – the rest of my family and friends will be coming soon.
“He said ‘okay’ to me just to shut my mouth basically.
“We cut the cake and it was time to take photographs and his mom had tears in her eyes.
“The rest of his family were just quiet. Their mood was very down.
“My husband then goes to me ‘is it all done can we go?’
“I got so hurt by this and I said to him you are leaving our wedding ceremony to go and sit at someone else’s house.
“He made excuses like ‘my brother can’t drive late in the night etc.’”
The wife revealed that she burst into tears when her husband left with his family and she was left feeling embarrassed in front of her relatives.
She said the celebration continued with her having to receive their wedding gifts on her own.
“My mother-in-law then messaged my mom that they had just reached home at midnight. It was like a slap on our face,” she said.
“I am so hurt by this that at least every other night I would cry myself to sleep.”
She admitted that it was likely their relationship would’ve ended if a similar situation had happened before they had exchanged vows.
She added: “He would try to console me but not much changed till one day he got fed up with me crying and called me a f***ing b***h.
“I am writing this because I don’t know if enough time has passed for me to forgive him for this because in my heart I feel I can never forgive him for this.
“I wanted to leave him right after but I love him too much.”
Thousands of people replied to the post accusing the woman’s husband of having no “respect” for her and warned her not to stay with him.
One person wrote: “If you don’t put your foot down, his family will be running all over you until they break you.
“If you think this will get any better if you have a child, you’re sadly mistaken.
“I suggest letting your husband know that you won’t be staying in the marriage if he doesn’t respect you and stand by you.”
Another commented: “You’re not wrong for not forgiving, you’re wrong for not leaving him that day and never looking back.
“This man does not and will never respect you.
“You’re so young and deserve someone who’s not going to be married to mommy first and wife last.”
A third added: “My heart breaks for you. He not only disrespected you but your family as well.
“I’m Asian so I know respect is a huge part of any relationship. He may be kind and loving at other times but he doesn’t respect you nor your family.
“Yes, your mother-in-law is to blame but the person to blame most is your husband since he has not fulfilled his duty to show you respect.
“Send him back to his mom since she clearly hasn’t finished raising him into a man.”
