My entire family was dress-coded at my cousin’s wedding, we left but she says we should’ve popped to Walmart & come back
A WOMAN whose entire family was dress-coded at her cousin’s wedding has spoken out about their appalling treatment.
Unwilling to be so publicly humiliated, they decided to leave the ceremony.
But not before the bride suggested they pop to Walmart to pick up more appropriate attire and then continue the festivities.
The upsetting experience led to a period of reflection and the bridesmaid wondered if her response was the right one.
She took her dilemma to online forum Reddit to seek some clarity.
And that was certainly what she got from her forthright commenters, who were behind her decision all the way.
“AITA for leaving my cousin’s wedding even though I was a bridesmaid?” she asked in her post.
She outlined the drama for Redditors: “It was my cousin’s wedding and I was one of the bridesmaids. We are a Mexican ranchero family, the wedding was formal attire.”
The church proceedings went smoothly, but the mood changed at the reception when she realized her family were not being let in.
“I was informed that my family wasn’t allowed in because of their attire.
“My uncles were wearing very expensive boots, black pant slacks, and a nice button-up shirt.
“For context the bride had sent a group message to all family saying what attire was not allowed and my family followed the guidelines.”
This included no hats, sombreros, jeans, sandals, jeans, and T-shirts.
But the bride appeared to have a problem with her family’s footwear.
“They told me that they weren’t allowed in due to them wearing boots.”
Piling humiliation upon humiliation, the bride came up with a solution.
“She said we could go to Walmart to get some cheap dress shoes instead.”
There was added confusion and bewilderment when other guests were spotted wearing – boots.
“When I mentioned this the groom acted like he couldn’t see them even though they were right in front of him.”
They did the only thing they could do and left, but this prompted a response from the bride, far too late some might say.
“All of a sudden the bride said that it was okay and we could stay. At that point it was embarrassing not being let into the venue and we declined and left.”
She sought reassurance on her behavior from Redditors: “So am I the a**hole for leaving with my family and not staying to finish the bridesmaid duties?”
Commenters were universally incredulous at their treatment.
“You’re in Texas!! Who doesn’t wear boots, especially to weddings,” said this person.
“What kind of wedding is this?” asked a second person. “Dress coding family. Of course, you left. She and her husband were incredibly rude to your family.
“Boots are way more formal than Walmart shoes. Her entire reasoning is incredibly bizarre.”
Just unkind behavior figured this commenter: “Locking people out of a wedding because of a dress code is just nasty.”
She had no choice, said this Redditor: “You invite people you want, who you care about.
“It shouldn’t matter how they look or how they dress. What happened here is beyond rude and I would have done the same thing.”
You don’t need friends like her, said this person: “I would suggest that you cancel her. What she did wasn’t classy; it was trashy.”
Rest assured you did nothing wrong, was the opinion of this person.
“You weren’t the jerk. But she and her groom were. Good for you standing up for your family. Good for you to point out the others who broke the dress code but were still allowed in.”
Better off out of it, figured this person: “What a chaotic wedding. Good job for leaving.”