How do I tell my boyfriend I want to try swinging
DEAR DEIDRE: Although my sex life with my boyfriend is amazing, I am really keen on having an open relationship.
I don’t know if this is just a fantasy and should be kept as one or whether I should act upon it. I just love the idea.
I’m 29 and my boyfriend is 36. We have been together for two years.
Everything between us is good and we talk about the future and about getting married one day.
Our sex life is awesome and he always satisfies me. But I’m curious about having new adventures in our bedroom life, and I’d like to try swinging.
But I think my boyfriend won’t want to share us with anyone else.
I feel I’m missing out. There’s no way I’d ever want to leave him and, in any case, I may in time discover that the lifestyle isn’t right for me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Fantasy and reality are not the same. Many happy couples who try opening up their relationship permanently damage it because they haven’t foreseen the pitfalls.
Swinging can be fun for some couples, but it requires a great deal of trust and communication if it’s to make, rather than break, your relationship.
What’s most important is that you set boundaries and rules before you go ahead, and keep talking, in case either of you changes your mind or feels uncomfortable.
My support packs, Swapping And Swinging, and Sexual Fantasies, will help you to think this through.