My girlfriend’s religious beliefs mean we can’t have sex and I am struggling
DEAR DEIDRE: WHILE I respect my girlfriend’s values, I am struggling with the lack of sex in our relationship.
I am 27 and she is 25. We have been together for almost three years and, although we are very close and intimate, we are not having sex.
My girlfriend is Muslim and, though I acknowledge her beliefs, I am finding it very difficult to go without sex.
I love her very much. We are good together.
I don’t want to put pressure on her but it is increasingly difficult for me, especially when I am so attracted to her.
I have sexual urges which I am struggling to control. We both live with our parents.
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I have had sex with previous partners but my girlfriend says it is against her religion.
I am going along with that because I don’t want to end the relationship or get hurt, but physically I am struggling.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s time to have an honest conversation.
You both need to discuss where you see your relationship going.
Talk to her and let her know you are struggling physically, and listen to what she has to say.
If sex is off the cards until she is married, you need to have an honest conversation.
Would you need to convert? Would you consider that? Do you even want to get married?
You’ll only be able to work this through, or come to the conclusion that you need to both go your separate ways, if you can be honest.