I’m cheating on my wife with her best mate – at first it was an ego boost but now I’m falling for her & have zero guilt
A MAN has revealed that he is cheating on his ‘amazing’ wife with her best friend.
He claimed that at first it was a bit of an ego boost, but now, he’s falling for the woman.
But if that wasn’t bad enough, he confessed that he has ‘literally zero guilt’ about the situation.
Keen to open up, the man took to social media to share his infidelity, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on the r/TrueOffMyChest forum on Reddit, under the @throwaway19821108, the man titled his post ‘I’m cheating on my wife with her best friend and I think I’m falling for her.’
Sharing context of the situation, he then explained: “Whole thing is super f****d up. I’ve been married to my wife for seven years, been together since 2006.
“For the most part, she’s an amazing, smart, funny, and attractive woman. She has four degrees and she’s a teacher at a local elementary school.
“Most people think I’m f*****g nuts even when I need to blow off a little steam about her. She’s literally untouchable when it comes to venting to my friends or family. That’s how highly everyone thinks of her.”
But despite his ‘attractive’ wife, the man confessed that he struggles to stay loyal.
He added: “I, for the life of me, cannot keep my d**k in my pants. I’ve had several one night stands since getting married and I mostly hate myself for that s**t.
“I slept with one of my best friends back in January and we have not hung out since because we both feel horrible about it.”
The anonymous man then shared how he has grown closer to one of his wife’s best friends, as he continued: “My wife has two best friends, M and D. They live on opposite sides of a duplex.
“We’ve known M for many years and she moved in next door to D about eight years ago.
“D was already on her second marriage (from which she has two children) at the time, soon headed for her second divorce.
“She was single for a few years before eventually meeting someone she loved, and literally on her third marriage at 34, a wedding which we actually attended last year.
“We started hanging out with D and her husband R a lot more often since they got married. Some of it was convenience since she lived next door to M and we were already hanging out with her and her new boyfriend but we really enjoyed their company.
“They’re about the same age as us and into some of the same things. Slowly, I started realising how similar D and I are, to the point that others in our group of six pointed it out.
The ego boost was nice, and my wife was being an a*****e at the time
Reddit poster
“I’m not gonna go into detail about that, but it’s shocking how similar we are on multiple levels.
“I’m not stupid. I can tell when a woman likes me more than friends, even if she is married. I can pick up on hints.”
He claimed that things then progressed when his wife’s friend would send him random text messages, as he shared: “When D started texting me about random b******t here and there outside of our group chat back in January or February, I knew what was up.
“I kind of hoped it would die out, but again, I’m a piece of s**t and just fed into it.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“The ego boost was nice, and my wife was being an a*****e at the time (not so much that she deserves a cheating husband, no one does).
“It wasn’t exactly a fast-moving thing, but over the course of a few months, we are now just looking to spend an hour here and an hour there together. We’re all pretty busy so this s**t is difficult.
“It’s hard to explain why I’m so crazy about D. She just gets me. Like, on a molecular level, and me, her. And we’ve acknowledged this.
“I honestly don’t know if I’ve ever felt about A the way I do about D. Some people might just think it’s because it’s something new, but again, I f****d one of my best friends and I’m not hung up on that.”
I have literally zero guilt about this affair. I know the path that I’m on, and I don’t think I hate it
Reddit poster
But the 38-year-old admitted that whilst he is constantly thinking about his wife’s pal, he doesn’t feel any guilt about the affair.
He concluded: “So here I am losing my mind about my wife’s best friend, who’s on her third marriage and probably a little unhinged.
“I’m constantly f*****g distracted just thinking about her.
“Prior instances, I could barely look at myself in the mirror, but I have literally zero guilt about this affair. I know the path that I’m on, and I don’t think I hate it.”
Reddit users react
Reddit users were left open-mouthed by the man’s confession and flocked to the comments to share their thoughts.
Many slammed the man for his actions and encouraged him to file for a divorce.
Please divorce your wife, she deserves better
Reddit user
One person said: “Divorce your wife so she can move on and find another man. Then you can both be happy.”
Another added: “At least man up and tell her, she doesn’t deserve that.”
A third commented: “I feel like if you’ve cheated on her multiple times and don’t feel awful, probably just get a divorce, things are never gonna be good.”
Meanwhile, someone else advised: “Please divorce your wife, she deserves better.”