I have big boobs – coworkers say I look ‘hot’ and people call me attention-seeking no matter how professional I dress
DESPITE maintaining a professional wardrobe and impeccable conduct at work, one woman said she’s constantly accused of dressing “slutty” for attention.
But it’s not her fault, she explained – her busty build is to blame no matter what she wears.
Body-positivity influencer Vanessa has over 157k followers to commiserate with on TikTok, where she talks openly about the struggles of a bigger chest.
While Vanessa has learned to love her frame, it hasn’t been easy, especially when others give unsolicited comments, she said in a video.
“As soon as you have slightly bigger boobs, there are three reasons why they might ‘ruin your outfit,'” she said.
Vanessa made clear that she didn’t believe her chest could actually “ruin” anything, but she was referencing crude comments from others.
Throughout her life, she explained, Vanessa had assembled outfits that were “cute and adorable,” “elegant and elevated,” or “professional and business[like].”
But the moment she wore the clothes on her body, the perception of them changed.
“People looked at me and just went, ‘Dang, you look hot,'” she recalled.
It was disappointing when her outfits were received in a different way than she’d intended – especially in professional settings.
“Imagine going for a networking event with lawyers and judges, and you hear from your peers that you look hot,” she said.
The experience was mortifying every time.
“I wanted to look professional and like I can meet deadlines,” Vanessa added.
Even in casual settings, Vanessa said, she’s been told her breasts ruin her grand fashion plans.
They “take away attention from the perfectly-crafted look,” she said, by throwing off the silhouette or making the outfit look “odd.”
“When you’re wearing an oversized sweater or an oversized shirt,” she said by way of example, it can make your chest look “heavy.”
But worst of all, Vanessa said, are the comments from people who assume she’s intentionally dressing to invite sexual advances.
“They make you look slutty,” Vanessa said matter-of-factly.
Pointing down to her own camisole and sweater, Vanessa used the outfit as an example. “I’ll wear something like this,” she said.
“It’s fine on any other girl with a smaller chest,” she continued. “I wear it and people are like, ‘You’re trying to get attention!'”
It’s frustrating that people jump to such an assumption, Vanessa admitted.
The influencer shared one of her boilerplate responses to crude comments: “No, I’m just existing.”
Though dozens of commenters related to Vanessa’s experiences firsthand, she ended with an uplifting message for them.
“But again, these are not actual points,” she reminded her followers.
“You’re more than just your boobs,” she said. “It’s just part of your body people exaggerate over.”