WHERE ARE THEY NOW: Which 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' season 1 couples are still together?

In episode nine of "The Ultimatum: Queer Love," Rae Cheung-Sutton decided to propose to Lexi Goldberg after being given the ultimatum.

In the reunion episode, which was reportedly shot in January 2023, more than a year after filming wrapped in late 2021, Lexi and Rae said they were still in the process of planning their wedding but had picked a date.

However, at the end of the episode, a message appeared on the screen that said that the pair had broken up after the reunion and never made it down the wedding aisle. 

It appears both stars are still single. 

Sam Mark and Aussie Chau had a tough journey during their trial marriage as Sam started to stand up for herself more while Aussie struggled with confrontation. 

However, on proposal day, Aussie was ready to get married and presented Sam with a gemstone before actually proposing with a real ring.

In the reunion, the pair said they have not started wedding planning yet but hope to have two weddings: one in the US, and one in Aussie's home country of Australia. Aussie first plans to come out to Aussie's parents and introduce Sam to them before they start planning their wedding.

On proposal day, Mal Wright decided to propose to Yoly Rojas after being given the ultimatum. After a short discussion about their situation and Yoly's connection with trial marraige partner Xander, Yoly decided to accept Mal's proposal.

However, during the reunion, Yoly and Mal said that they had broken up after the show. Yoly said it took two weeks for them to break up after Mal left her during a holiday and said she was planning to move out. 

Both parties agreed that prior problems in the relationship resurfaced after the show. After spending some time apart, Mal said that she wanted to end the relationship.

In separate interviews with Insider, both parties gave further details on how their relationship ended. Yoly told Insider that before the show, they had moved to Seattle to start a life together but had not taken any other steps.

"Our conflict resolution was not the best at the time. I don't think it ever was. We tried. We had lots of therapy," Yoly said. "We had a wedding about three weeks later after the show filmed, and then from that wedding — it was in Mexico — she got a one-way ticket back to her parents, where she spent like two months."

Yoly continued: "And while she was there, she let me know that she was gonna be moving out, that this was not gonna be working, and I didn't fight back, to be fair. I was just like, 'Sounds about right. Sounds good.'" 

Mal agreed that her relationship with Yoly lacked good communication. "The breaking point was the way that we were managing conflict was extremely unhealthy," Mal told Insider. "There was still some dishonesty floating around as it pertained to her and Xander and there were still promises made and them being broken simultaneously. So for me it was just like, 'I love you so much. I cannot build a life with you.'"

Mal added that she felt she made the right decision after seeing the show.

Both Mal and Yoly told Insider that they're just friends now and both are still single.

Mal said that she's "not available yet," because she's working on herself. Yoly said that she is still looking to get married.

"Where I stand right now is I'm not going to be in a relationship unless it is about to be marriage," Yoly said.

On proposal day, Xander Boger decided to break up with her long-term partner Vanessa Papa. Afterward, she went to go see Yoly, whom she formed a connection with during the show. Unfortunately for Xander, Yoly had already accepted her original partner Mal's proposal.

In the reunion, Xander and Vanessa admitted that they no longer talk after they both realized they could not rekindle the relationship. Vanessa told Insider that was still the case, though she is hopeful about being friends after some time and space from Xander.

As for Xander and Yoly, it is revealed in the reunion that they continued communicating with each other after the show and were at one point planning to meet up in Hawaii, where Xander lives. Eventually, they did bump into each other at Coachella and tried to see if a relationship would work, but it didn't.

Xander told Insider that they are"on different paths" and is unsure whether they would be able to date in the future because "there's just so many moving parts still right now."

"I was on this my own little healing journey and trying to recover from certain things and she had just broken up with Mal," Xander said. "It just didn't feel like a good time for us to start a relationship or even to try and delve into that."

Yoly told Insider that timing was also the issue, but they are still "supportive" of each other now.

Vanessa left the reunion single and still appears to be single, according to their social media. She told Insider that while she is not friends with many members of the group, she still speaks to Aussie, Sam and Tiff Der.

"I definitely found a true camaraderie in Tiff, Aussie and Sam," Vanessa said. "I feel like Tiff for the first time was able to look at me through a different lens, through their own lens, not just the lens of what they were hearing up the gossip. And Sam and Aussie were always good friends of mine. I feel like just even having them support me by the end of the show really meant a lot for me and gave me hope."

After being branded the show's "villain," the public backlash was swift. She told Insider she's received death threats from fans.

She added that Tiff, Aussie, and Sam have provided support. "They've all been kind enough to reach out to me after seeing how harshly everything's going and they've been checking in on me, which means the world."

When it came to the final decision, Tiff Der decided to propose to Mildred Woody despite their arguments leading up to proposal day.

In the reunion, Tiff and Mildred said they had broken up.

Mildred said there wasn't any progress towards a wedding after they moved in together. Tiff said their communication problems from the show followed them into their engagement. The two then began arguing about the circumstances that led to the breakup.

Mildred said that the turning point was when she got arrested after throwing a picture frame and a pet gate at Tiff, and admitted that their relationship was volatile. The pair also agreed that Tiff had a hard time connecting with Mildred's son.

Eventually, Tiff left the reunion early and went home.

Since the reunion aired, both parties have addressed the fight on Instagram.

Mildred captioned a post of herself at the reunion: "Ok, I just naturally call people out,
(sin pelos en la lengua) I'm just learning how to deliver. I'm learning to use my voice after being in a very emotionally abusive relationship. I'm learning calmness even when being emotionally abused so I can properly speak and express discomfort."

Meanwhile, Tiff shared a larger post on Instagram about trauma and relationships.

Halfway through the caption they wrote: "I left the relationship in September of 2022 during a certain serious incident between us that unfortunately her son was witness of and for the reasons and privacy of a child, I'm not comfortable talking about it further. This is the only extent of the truth I will share. I mean no ill intent or harm toward the person I left. I said nothing on stage to hurt her despite me having every right to feel incredibly angry for being gaslit in front of millions of people....and I don't plan to. All I can say is I hope they have healed because hurt people hurt people."

Tiff said that they left the reunion because they realized "it's not my battle to fight anymore."

Tiff added: "I have healed tremendously since September but it's not a linear process."