My boyfriend wants to experiment in bed but I am worried about doing it
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my boyfriend suggested experimenting with sex I told him I was open to it, but now he says he wants me to try anal and I’m feeling apprehensive.
The last thing I want is to look stuck in my ways but I’m worried about the pain.
I’m 24, he’s 25 and we have been together for two years.
Before we met I had only ever slept with one other man and so I had very limited sexual experience.
My boyfriend on the other hand had always been quite adventurous, but he made sure to take things slow.
However, I was excited by the prospect of spicing things up until he brought up anal sex.
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While he would never force me to do anything, I want to be open to new experiences.
He said he would take care and that I would probably find that I eventually enjoy it but the idea of it is scaring me.
What if I can’t deal with the pain?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: If you don’t want to do something sexually, you don’t have to.
There are other ways to spice up your sex life.
My support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex can help with this.
But if you do want to try, make sure that you are relaxed and take things slowly.
Using a water-based lubricant is essential as oil damages condoms.
Be gentle as the tissues surrounding the rectum are not elastic or designed for penetration like a vagina.